THE STORY OF LIFE

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

I would like to share a story I came across...

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind and she hated everyone else as well, except her loving boyfriend who was always there for her no matter what. She told her boyfriend, "If only I could see the world, I will marry you."


One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.


He asked her,"Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?" The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. She was shocked at the sight of his closed eyelids. She really hadn't expected that! The thought of looking at them for the rest of her life depressed her and thus led her to refuse to marry him.


Her boyfriend left, dejected and in tears. Days later she received a note from him, with these words stated simply; "Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine."


Sadly, this is how human often are when our status changes. Only a very few remembers what life was like before, and who was always by their side in painful situations, when the going was rough, when they were yet 'somebody'. They often forget the person who had stick by their side, believing in them, rooting for them, and loving them no matter what the future would have brought.

This is THE STORY OF LIFE.

OST Lagenda Budak Setan

Friday, May 14, 2010

Bila cinta kini
Tak lagi bermakna
Yang ku rasa kini
Hanyalah nestapa
Ditinggalkan cinta masa lalu

Dulu kau tawarkan manisnya janjimu
Dan ku sambut itu dengan SEGENAP HATIKU
Bila engkau pergi tinggalkan ku
Hilangnya cintamu menusuk hatiku
Hingga ku memilih cinta yang fana

Perginya dirimu
MEROBEK JANTUNGKU
Hingga ku terjatuh
Dalam harapan

Hilangnya cintamu
Menusuk hatiku
Hinggakan tejatuh
Dalam harapan

Dalam harapan.....

*Entah kenapa lirik OST ni betul2 macam bisikan hati aku...menitis gak lah air mata dengar...memang sedap kan OST LAGENDA BUDAK SETAN*

The Denigrated Race

Thursday, May 13, 2010

At the Projek Amanat Negara I attended some few weeks ago, an experienced somebody (I shall not name names) had this to say (in summary):

"That Malay has become the denigrated race. That their politicians are laughed at. That they are bashed at (even by Malay themselves). Malays, in effect, has become the minority."

As sad as it may be, this is indeed true. We are indeed now "The Denigrated Race". Why is that? Is that justified?

Well, this entry is not meant to be an intellectual piece about how the Malays need to improve themselves to be at par with the rest, yada yada yada, something that have been talked about in my circle for so much since I started law school (heck, actually since I was in TKC) that frankly, I'm bored of it already (that's the problem of having said so much and been so opinionated since an early age, by the time you get to this age of mine you feel so jaded already by all this topics. Been there, done that).

And this entry is not meant to be a racist propaganda either.

This entry is meant for me to vent this frustration of mine.

Why are we the denigrated race? I do not think that we deserve that. True, we are not a perfect race, we have weaknesses. But aren't you too? True, our politicians are mostly crap, but aren't yours too? (In fact aren't all politicians shit-spitting lowlifes, even here in the UK!)

We love this country. We would do anything for this country. We would stay here and fight for what it's worth no matter how bad the situation is, how bad the economy is, how bad the standard of living is. We would spill blood for this country. We would die for this country. Would YOU do that???

At least 80% of Non-Malays I've met here in the UK, when I asked them personally, have indicated that they do not intend to go back to Malaysia. At least not until "the situation improves". WHAT THE HELL. So you are going to stay here and hide, living in luxury (or what you perceived as luxury, after the astronomic tax) while the denigrated race fight and slave out at low salary in order to keep the country going. You just want to walk back in when everything is fine and dandy?? At official get-togethers kau cakap berdegar-degar, demanding a change in this, a change in that. You talk so much, but you are not even willing to come back home and make that change. Remember, YOU should be the change that you want to see happens. Not hide out here berlagak Westerner, eyeing for that PR.

I would respect you if you say (in all honesty) that you do not want to go straight back home because you want to get the experience that you cannot get back in Malaysia, so that when you come back you can contribute to a new kind of development.. But don't give me the impression that kau just tak nak bersusah di negara sendiri. So siapa sekarang yang kene bersusah untuk kau? Kerajaan hantar belajar tinggi2 so that kau balik and menyumbang pada negara. Bukan untuk menyumbang pada kekayaan dan kesenangan hidup kau sorang.

I know, and I truly understand (because I feel the same way too) that the government SHOULD do something in order to ensure that when we go back home there would be jobs that would fulfill our career needs in terms of job satisfaction as well as intellectual satisfaction, and of course at a salary that is befitting our education and qualification.

But it is while the going is rough that you can see who truly loves the country and who are just "parasites" wanting to feed-off the country (sorry for the strong words). Remember, you need the country more than the country needs you. Being in a place where you belong, even if you don't make as much wealth, is far better than being somewhere where you are just "the outsider". Apa kau ingat orang UK suka sangat kau ramai2 kat sini? Come on, you know the answer.

And don't say you don't feel like you truly belong in Malaysia because we are not tolerant enough. Tak cukup tolerant lagi ke? You want to go to your own school? Silakan. You want to speak your own language? Silakan. (In fact, some of us can't get a job at some places because we don't speak your language) You want to practice your faith? Silakan. In grandeur lagi (Let the gold-plated tallest statue of Dewa Murugan at Batu Caves be a Testament to that). Of course there are no absolute freedom. Freedom needs to come with limitation, especially in a multi-racial country like ours. In fact, can you name me one country that practices absolute freedom? Can you?

But you, you question our Bumiputera rights. Padahal apa sangat lah rights tu pun. You want us to respect your sensitivity. But have you ever respected ours? When you use Allah to denote your God, although you know how precious religiosity is to us (like how precious money is to you), you disparage us when we get insulted. Why is it that we always have to respect you, but you never respect us? Yes, it may be linguistically correct, and you can harp on Freedom of Expression, but how does that reflect on how "respectful" you are (something you claimed to be) and how does that reflect on your social conscience?

Now, coming back to the issue of the denigrated race. Why is that so? Why do you hate us so much? Why do you belittle us? Are we not friendly to you? Do we not welcome you with open arms when you come to our house? We want to talk to you, we want to hang out with you, we want to be your friends. But how can we do that when you just stick to yourself, and speak in a language that we cannot understand? Can't we speak in English (no matter how broken our English is, or yours). Come to think of it, why can't we speak in Malay? Because it's our language? And here i thought it's the National language. Well, that's what the Federal Constitution says anyway. And if you don't like what the Federal Constitution says, well blame your forefathers for agreeing to it when you once seek the protection of Malaya.
In any event, I'm sure you did pass your SPM Bahasa Melayu paper (and I'm sure in more probability you got an A1 for it).

Last thing about the denigrated race. How come there are Malays themselves who like to denigrate the Malays. Sebab kau malu jadi orang Melayu kan? Sebab kau ingat kau Western and modern kan? Bangsat lah kau. Itu nama nya tak sedar diri. Western, modern, kau makan sambal belacan jugak.
Please lah, I really hate Malays who feel the only way they can appear cool , open minded, and be accepted by the non-Malays are when they disparage and belittle their own race. If that's what you have to do to gain acceptance, THEN SHAME ON YOU.

Now the Malay in me has spoken. Let it be damned!

*(spoken like a true denigrated race)*

Exchange with a Beloved Friend

*I want to share an exchange I had with a beloved friend of mine, Sasha Lyna, on FB yesterday. This is just to show that if we have enough respect and love, we can disagree on anything, but still be good friends afterwards. Then you can say you have maturity in the true sense of the word. :)

(In italic are Sasha's)*


So I'm heartless because I say it's better to take your grievances to the court rather than to the street? Yes, we can emulate civilized countries, but only if the people are of civilized minds first.



how can u have revolution like that?and whe n until u take it to the streets will the people knw the real story..COURT?with our present image of our court?HOW?!!



That's on the presupposition that we need a "revolution"...can we handle a revolution? can we carry through a revolution? you think we are ready for that? seriously?

Yes, I used to think crap of the court as well. and the police. and the government. But then someone asked me, "why are you so cynical?". Aku terdiam (hek leh, cam real je aku mampu terdiam!)

Then I realised that all of us idealist (including me) fighting for utopia are no longer CRITICAL, but just purely CYNICAL. We are too quick to condemn ANYTHING state-like. Sebelum dengar ape2 lagi, tengok apa2 bukti lagi, kita dah buat judgment. This is NOT what the Rule of Law (that ironically we are fighting for) is about. This will just bring CHAOS. Sekian.



if with that kind of thot, of cz we're never gna b ready..

but do we have/need to b ready to carry out a revolution?change is needed when there is no other way n clearly there is a wrong that is soo apparent n needs to be corrected.

surely, u must give other opportunity to prove their worth rather than saying they don't knw anything....

y do u think there is chaos?is it not also contributed by those in power?arent they retaliating to the move towards revolution?

we cant all be gandhi(may he rest in peace).



oh babe, I agree that we need CHANGE, hell yeah we do..but we don't need a REVOLUTION...check history and see what that means..see the price that has been paid for it..the price is blood. But the move towards change can only come from objectivity, not emotion!

Not ALL things should be taken to the streets. If available legal avenues have been exhausted, then fine. But don't jump the gun! In civilized countries you think diorang main belasah je ke. They follow proper steps. All in time.

For example the shooting issue. For all 1000 ppl yg melatah terus kondem polis, there are another 1000 yg melatah and terus defend polis and kondem the boy. U see? There is no space for unification when things are done on the basis of "cepat melatah". Kalau takleh unite, u think we can carry through a revolution? It's not a matter of not giving ppl the chance to prove their worth, but see...their action has spoken louder than their words.


but nenek jst bcoz don't agree tak smestinyer means bloody..we need to educate people thats all..its ok to disagree!!like us, i still love u as much even if i dont agree with u ;)


as long as what we do tu betul2 melambangkan nak educate people..."don't listen to what a man says, look at what he does" (ni quotation utk carik jodoh, tapi boleh pakai gak ah! hehe)

Betul tu bulu, altho I might not necessarily agree with you fully, but I still love you nonetheless too! Ni baru lah differences of opinion secara berhikmah kan...as long as we keep our cool and remain professional...nak emotional, save that for pergaduhan ngan your laki/bini, hihihi :P


*and that was my intellectual Exchange with a Beloved Friend (for the day)*

TRAGEDY

Monday, May 10, 2010

This is something I wrote as a comment to Abu's status on FB regarding the shooting of adik Aminulrasyid, which I decided to re-post here:

I think ALL of us know the law. Semua orang pass CPC and Consti dulu kan. Everyone knows about Proportionality. Everyone knows that Police can only shoot when they are shot at, or when their own life is threatened (unless it's a warning shot). Everyone knows that Natural Justice warrants the Presumption of Innocence (and it works both way, on the kid, and on the police as well).

Now to put all these legal principles in context, we CANNOT do that UNLESS and UNTIL we know all the facts of what actually happened. Hence, investigation by an INDEPENDENT panel/commission is needed (the independence of the government-led one is reasonably questionable).

But before all the facts are laid down in public and objectively analysed, people should refrain from making emotional statements swayed by political underpinnings. The police camp will say that happened, the boy's camp will say this happened, it will be a case of he says-she says, that's why result of fact-finding by an independent party sahaja yg boleh dianggap FACTS OF THE CASE, yang lain2 tu ALLEGED FACTS (from both sides). We are all legally trained to know rules of evidence kan.

Sebab tu I personally think the case going straight to court is the best way to go (which I just read is what's happening now).

But I have to say, naluri aku sedih bila aku tengok gambar budak kecik tu, that is something I can't help. Whatever the outcome, this IS a TRAGEDY.

Surah Al-Ankabut verse 2

Al-Ankabut 2: "Patutkah manusia menyangka bahawa mereka akan dibiarkan dengan hanya berkata, 'kami beriman', sedangkan mereka tidak diuji?"

Sometimes I can't help feeling that I hate myself

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Sometimes I can't help feeling that I hate myself.

Why am I so talkative (can't I just shut up), why am I so opinionated (can't I just keep my opinion to myself), why am I so frank (can't I just be more selective), why am I so damn friendly (can't I just keep my distance)...

Why can't I be more docile, more lady-like, more sweet, more womanly? Less aggressive, less intimidating, less like a whirlwind that cannot keep still...

Maybe because of this everyone always warm up to me fast (bcz aku cepat mesra?) but would ALWAYS see me as just a friend...maybe because of this no one will ever be able to see beyond this bubble of bubbliness, loud laughter, incessant smile & hunky dory I'm always happy, and see the woman beneath...fragile, melancholic, feminine, with more to share than what meets the eye...

Will anyone ever know the essence of who Siti Aliza is? Bcz the walking contradiction that I am, unlike normal people, I build invisible walls around myself through my happy-go-lucky oozing with friendliness persona...yes, of course that is me...but there's also another side to me...and hence I don't think anyone will ever know who I am........

Perhaps because I did once let someone inside and see the other side of me (the insecurities, the despondency, the reverie) and look at how THAT ended up...with me left hurting and bleeding and scarred for life......but does that mean I am now beyond repair??

Sometimes I can't help feeling that I hate myself.

Insha Allah

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Every time you feel like you cannot go on
You feel so lost and
That you're so alone
All you see is night
And darkness all around
You feel so helpless
You can’t see which way to go
Don’t despair n' never lose hope
Cos' Allah is always by your side

Insha Allah x3

Insha Allah you’ll find your way

Insha Allah x3

Every time you commit one more mistake
You feel you can’t repent
And that it's way too late
You’re so confused,
Wrong decisions you have made
Haunt your mind and your heart is full of shame
Don’t despair and never lose hope
Cos' Allah is always by your side

Insha Allah x3

Insha Allah you’ll find your way

Insha Allah x3

Insha Allah you’ll find your way
Turn to Allah
He’s never far away
Put your trust in Him
Raise your hands and pray
Oh Ya Allah
Guide my steps don’t let me go astray
You’re the only one that can show me the way,
Show me the way x2

Insha Allah x3

Insha Allah we’ll find our way


- Maher Zain, Insha Allah -